1. Baby crying at the church
I understand that babies are hard to control but there is a cardinal rule for all guests and that is if your baby cries take the child outside. Forget your selfish need to watch the ceremony and consider the bride and groom. At this wedding the nephew of the groom started to wail right at the commencement of the vows. It was very distracting and you could barely hear the bride and groom and the priest over the child’s crying. The faux pas was committed by the mother of the child and sister of the groom who rather than remove the child, stayed to watch the vows. Understandably she wanted to see her brother get married but the child almost ruined the moment. The mother did not leave until a good three minutes of the child constantly wailing. Not only did this affect the couple and the guests it will also affect the quality of the couples wedding video as the child was right at the front of the church next to the videographer. This is a faux pas as the mother, by not removing the child until it was settled, has affected the bride and groom at the most important part of the ceremony.
2. A guest tried to upstage the bride
Perhaps there is a theme here but again, the sister of the groom and wore an outfit that was similar to and almost upstaged the bride. The sister choose a white and silver beaded gown and decided to match the gown with a small silver fascinator. Fascinators are a small gauze veil that cover a part of the face secured by a hair piece, which in this case was a flower in the lady’s hair. The problem with this is that guest looked like a bride. There is no reason for the guest to have worn a small veil. Yes she was an important guest but this decision was a big faux pas. On top of this, the lines of beading on the sister’s dress was strikingly familiar to that of the bride who also had lines of beading throughout her dress. Although i do not think there was malicious intent on behalf of the guest she should have known better than to have worn a veil, however small to a wedding. After finding out that this guest herself was already married and had a very small wedding it might seem like she was trying to shine on her brothers day. But this is a mistake. She could have simply placed a flower but a flower with a short small veil attached was inappropriate and a big faux pas. What makes it even worse is that small veils and fascinators are now days increasingly being worn by brides. Please consider this if you are a guest to a wedding and are considering a similar style. The sister should have thought of her own day and how special she felt in her veil and how it was her new sister-in-laws turn to shine and not hers.
3. Standing up at reception before bride and groom enter.
As I have said before, a wedding is all about the Bride and Groom, not the other people in the bridal party. At this wedding, upon the entry of the bridesmaids and groomsmen guests were already standing and applauding their entry. This is a faux pas as guests are only to stand once the Bride and Groom enter as a mark of respect for the special couple. By standing for the entry of other members of the bridal party you take away from the importance of the bride and groom. To avoid this at your wedding ask your MC to ask your guests to remain seated until the bride and groom enter.
Tips
- If a baby cries take it out of the church. If its your wedding and therefore a guests baby who might cry ask all guests beforehand who are taking a baby to your church that they remove them if they cry. If you feel uncomfortable doing this, have a designated church attendant to go up to babies that cry and ask for them to be removed. If you still feel this is a little rude, perhaps have a designated quiet room with a supervisor where guests can leave their babies for the ceremony. Most churches have quiet rooms available.
- Don’t try to upstage the bride. Think about how special you felt or will feel on your day as the guest of honour. Think about how you would feel if someone else wore a veil on your day. On this basis, dress appropriately. Do not wear white and do not wear fascinators!
- Only stand at the reception for the bride and groom – Make the guests of honour feel special
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